bits from bob....
by Bob Young
[permission is given to reprint with credit noted]
Some children do not have a chance. They receive no direction, controls, or consequences.
No parental support, no encouragement.
One role of parents is to give their children a chance.
How do parents give children a chance to succeed?
GIVE THEM ROOTSShould parents continue to provide opportunities, i.e. finances to reach a new goal, fund a new initiative (perhaps, but not supportive financing)
Is there a need for continuing financial support? (such may actually work against the responsibilities and goals of the parents)
Help them receive a good education: both formal and experiential
Help them develop principles and values that will guide their behaviors
Provide them an example: moral training, relationship training, and spiritual training
Provide basic skills training-consistent with the knowledge base of the parents
Provide financial support through the formative years
GIVE THEM WINGSSometimes children do not take full advantage of the opportunities they are given.
Give them a chance to become all that they can become
Unfortunately, some learn through bad choices. The role of parents is primarily to give children a chance-by providing foundations and opportunities.
Help them learn independence, developing the ability to make correct choices.
How does a parent help children make good choices?
Once parents have given their children a chance to succeed, what is their continuing obligation?
Children who are dependent may not perceive their own capacities, own abilities, and may have lowered self-esteem.
Last updated August 17, 2011