bits from bob....

The Man I Want to Be

by Robert J. Young
September 15, 2003
©, 2003, Robert J. Young
[permission is given to reprint with credit noted]

I was tempted to title this article, "Seven Values of Real Men." Seven is a popular number in religious writing, and Covey's "Seven Habits...." has given rise to a plethora of lists of seven. Aware of the fact that lists of seven abound, I forge ahead. Here are seven characteristics I seek. I have worded them as realities even those these are goals. They are not characteristics which are the exclusive domain of men, although we men might need to work a little harder in these areas. I hope my list is of help to you.

1. I have a stable value system.

I am a blessing to all.
I know right and wrong and live according.
I represent the permanent presence of goodness.
I am a person with meaning and purpose. I am a person with priorities in place. I am in touch with death and dying, I will teach others how to live and how to die.
I am a religious, spiritual person.
I know what I believe, I act accordingly.
I have a long-range plan for my life.

2. I am intentional.

The core values and mission, purpose, and focus of my life determine what I do intentionally.
This is the foundation of my commitments.

3. I have special relationships in my life. I am able to love and adore other people, and to evidence that love by touching and hugging, both physically and emotionally.

4. I have a servant attitude.

I am anxious and willing to help others.
I am willing to put others above self.
I refuse selfishness, in attitude and in action.

5. I am fun to be around, but not at the expense of others (no negative fun).

I do not make cutting remarks.
I do not publicly criticize any other person.

6. I am transparent and open. This means that I am an authentic person. There are not hidden corners of my life. I am willing to be seen.

7. I am able to relabel tragedy. I have a healthy perspective on problems. This world is not my home, nor is it my ultimate goal. I am focused on that which transcends this world, and I believe God works for good in all things.